A little backstory – When Payton first started trying to say my name, we would repeat ‘Can you say Autumn’, & every time without missing a beat she would reply ‘Water’, and so my name was officially changed throughout the entire family to ‘Water’ because that was what Payton wanted to call me.
Fast forward to March 2017 (exactly 1 year since ‘Water’) – Payton started to occasionally call me the ‘M’ word. Mum. It would slip every few sentences, & I would correct her adding ‘Water’ to my response. For example, ‘Mum I want a drink’ would be answered with ‘Water can get you a drink sweetie’. We figured this will pass in her own time, & we will continue to gently correct her.
Payton is a very switched on little girl. As months went on, the phase didn’t end & the ‘M’ word didn’t stop. She began to ask things like ‘Did I come from your tummy’, and very quickly switched on to the fact that she came from her Mummy’s tummy and that I was her stepmum. I don’t know how, but her little brain has the whole situation sorted out and under control. She is incredible.
The ‘M’ word is now the only thing she will call me. She very proudly tells me she has two mums. & I know very well I am not her Mum, and I never will be. I made it clear from the beginning that yes I am here to support her, provide for her, love her unconditionally but one thing I’m not here for is to take her Mummy’s place. For now, however, I have one very strong willed stepdaughter who knows exactly what she wants in life and exactly how she feels, and who are we to take that away from her? As I tell her Daddy, we never know what my name will be in 6 months or even a years time. Water, to the ‘M’ word, to who knows what!